Forgiving Someone Else
That pain that was caused is real and you have EVERY right to hang on to that backpack of pain, shame, and blame. I won't take it from you. But how is that working out for you?
Definition: Forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve it. NOTE: Regardless of whether they actually deserve it!
But many of us would rather fight to stay in pain -- than surrender to be healed. But forgiving, letting God have it, and surrendering it can provide peace…..and freedom.
So we hang on with this fight. Defeating the wrong-doer is our currency. We MUST prove that we were right and they were wrong!
We put on our mask that all is good while we really know inside that anger, resentment, need for a payback to “make this right” is chewing away at us.
You were a victim. But…
- Victims are powerless.
- Victims have no control over their lives.
- Victims are at the mercy of others. They are passengers in the game of life.
- Victims can only react.
- Victims are prisoners.
- A victim has an excuse. A victim can excuse just about any kind of behavior.
You were a victim. You don't have to be a victim now.